I’m Not Dying, Selling nor Retiring
Heck, it’s taken me THIS long just to get any good at vetting. Why would I quit now?
But seriously, there’s a practice down the street that’s telling their customers that I’m in the process of:
- Selling the Practice
- Closing the Practice
- Gravely Ill
And none of the above is true except the dying part, some day. Absolutely.
I sent a letter and he’s simmered down as far as telling that story. But I don’t know if that’s a dead issue*.
I actually got a message from another Vet who was concerned to hear from him that I was seriously ill and getting out. Another client who was angry to have to hear I was quitting from a neighbor who heard it from the Vet above. (She felt, correctly, that she’d have heard that directly from me) Another client who saw this vet on Wednesday when I was closed and was told I was dying and to get her records and move. And another 2-3 clients who heard this and called to double check.
*It’s July 2019 and I just overheard Heather straightening out another client who had been told that I was retiring forthwith.
And I’m not.
Here’s the financial reason I’m never retiring: I was married for four years to a woman who used her kids as a tool to get money. Within a few months of marrying, she persuaded me to adopt her kids using their convicted father as leverage to ‘save them’ from his purview when he got out of prison and that it was “for the kids” …she pleaded. She and her family swore it was for the kids and that if something happened, there would be no child support assessed. I believed them. In fact I have it in writing, but an email isn’t a contract, I’ve learned.
To be honest, who would decline to do that for some innocent kids? And before I even knew their middle names, I did adopt them. All four of them. Four years later:
- When my first wife’s alimony ended, (to the MONTH)
- And Georgia law permitted the collection of Alimony (Not before 4 yrs),
- And her own business was finally in the black (2nd try),
…she walked out on us without a word*, and slammed me for Alimony, court costs and child support. I’m paying a quarter million dollars for a kindness; and whatever retirement I might have banked is vapor. She pawned the kids in the game. Made my most trusting moment into the biggest mistake of my life.
Anyway, with perpetual child support and health insurance til 2024 and a retirement to put together after that, I don’t see full retirement happening at all.
Don’t pity me, or feel bad for me. Everything happens for a reason. And assuming the kids got the benefit of the child support, they were financially provided for in a way neither of their real parents would have been able to. So I see a Plan.
*literally. No explanation. Moved out of the house, and in with her parents with one of the kids. Left me and the other three kids at the primary residence. Next contact I had from her was a process-server in my waiting room with the divorce papers. I was never happier. Til I found out about the child support she said she would never come after.